#hypergamous mindset

[richarlotte]

Tuesday’s Wisdom.

[rihnely]

[herdemimonde]

I know for some the biggest takeaway from this is the “it takes the same amount of energy to think small as it does to think big”

And while that is important, that’s not my biggest takeaway.

It’s the “I encouraged my husband in subtle, fun ways to become a billionaire by expanding his mindset.”

This is what some men know and why they don’t care about the “what do you bring to the table?” question. They know that with the right woman by their side she can elevate them to levels they never even imagined.

It’s YOU.

That’s what you bring to the table.

Not your job. Or degrees. Or savings account.

But you.

[bleachblondeambition]

I don’t believe you need to be totally dominant or spend your whole life cracking the whip, but you should at least be cognizant of how you’re allowing men to treat you, especially when you’re not in an exclusive relationship. I’ve found that having a no nonsense attitude when it comes to my relationships does more for me than passivity or indifference. I have no interest in wasting my life with someone I can’t stand or have to whip into shape, someone I have to carry on my back or force to be ambitious, or someone who can’t handle the realities that come with being an adult and interacting with women and the real world.

Strictness, standards, and self awareness are all essential; life and dating become so much easier when you’re willing to use all three to your advantage, and the right man will understand. If you don’t want to have your time wasted, you have to be willing to put your foot down and keep it down; women have been conditioned to be kind to spare the feelings of inadequate men and to deal with an endless onslaught of bullshit from partners who bring nothing of substance to their relationship. Men, on the other hand, have been taught that taking advantage of women and their kindness is normal; they’re shocked when things don’t go their way or they’re turned down by women they view as easy to manipulate or targets.

I was raised by a woman who brought me up to have no patience for men who were wishy washy on me, manipulative, childish, unable to hold a job, or careless with me. I swear by the way I was brought up, and I honestly believe that putting up with less, expecting more, not settling for any treatment I feel is unsatisfactory or demeaning, and cutting men off before they can start to play their games with me has done me a lot of good. Know that you shouldn’t be begging for attention, breaking your back to get a man to treat you appropriately, or going out of your way to get a man to see you and appreciate all of your efforts.

[mizdelusional]

Lord, as we enter a new school year, may you give me the strength and wisdom to make good, conscious decisions that will bring my further into alignment with my highest self.

[matematcher]

you want a soft life but marriage is hard work

Keeping romance alive once children are born

Losing weight which becomes harder the older you are

Navigating real life issues such as financial burdens or tragedies

Birthing children who require round-the-clock care, which can include medication, colostomy bag change, etc.

Become realistic, Become ready for a ring

[red-pill-to-swallow]

How to be attractive to men and my goals

Hey babes,

like I said – I want to incorporate RPT (Red Pill Theories) into my daily life immediately.

A few things that every women within the community seemed to be content with were:

1. You are never finished with glowing or leveling up. Never stop learning. Never stop trying to better yourself.

2. Pretty privilege is real.

I agree that pretty privilege is very real. I mean, I get affected by pretty people like everybody else, even if I don’t do it on purpose. It’s just something that is ingrained in our brains and I need to learn how to take this to my advantage.

I think I have a decent starting base, because I’m a skinny white woman in her twenties with long blonde hair. I am not really tall – even short men are at least 5-7cms taller than me – but I’m also not extremely short.

I have a petite frame but my body-shape is something between an hourglass and a peach. My face is average – I don’t really have striking features or am a natural beauty model – but my features also aren’t hideous. It’s really just something you can look at without thinking too much.

On a scale, I would rate myself a 5,5-6/10 on an average day and I guess that’s great!

But how can I make myself look better on a daily basis? I really took hours to research how I could make myself more attractive to wealthy and high value men.

Obviously, no man is like the other and every man prefers something different. One man might like tattoos and piercings while another man with the same social status thinks they are hideous. I don’t want to completely change who I am and I don’t want to spend thousands of dollars for it.

However, I really like this whole clean girl and old money aesthetic that is going viral on Tiktok right now – and I think those two aesthetics could fit me and my personality really well.

Most wealthy men seem to like this traits in women:

1. great skin without obvious pimples or enlarged pores

2. long and healthy hair in a natural color

3. straight white teeth

4. clean nails on both hands and feet

5. hairless legs, armpits and at least trimmed pubic hair

6. wearing clean and wrinkle free clothes without any holes

7. wearing a nice smell that is fitting to your overall appearance

I think those are the basics and they can be achieved by almost anyone. If you can’t afford braces make sure that your teeth are always perfectly brushed and that you’re keeping up with your dental hygiene in general.

In fact – if you have problems affording certain beauty procedures, research how to get as close as possible to them with DIYs.

For years, I always wanted to be the mysterious woman in the room. The woman with a dark aura, the woman that doesn’t speak much and remains most of her life a secret.

Well, I am not this woman even if I’m trying very hard. It would be an act that I would put on and I am sure that everyone in the room would notice.

I am naturally very bubbly and I love having conversations with people in general. I would also say that I have a broad knowledge on different topics and that I’m able to talk to almost everyone.

I am also very welcoming and I enjoy making people laugh and have fun in my presence. I tend to have strong opinions and I’m not afraid to take on a discussion.

With everything that I know about myself now, I made some points that I need to tackle in order to level up:

1. stop oversharing. Being bubbly is great but not everyone needs to know everything about my business. Sometimes it’s just better to be silent and to listen.

2. start with exercise again. I am happy with my weight but I am extremely weak and I have almost zero muscle mass. My breath is getting heavy if I have to take the stairs and my legs start to hurt after roughly 15 minutes of walking. I plan on going for a walk every day and doing pilates 3x a week.

3. start doing my hair and makeup again. My hair is long and blonde – so it is an eyecatcher. It’s also very healthy but I usually just throw it up in a bun or in a clawclip, so no one is really seeing it. I have multiple styling tools at home and I need to start using them. The same applies to makeup. I have so much great stuff that looks really beautiful and natural but I am just too lazy to use it. I plan on taking 20 minutes every day to do my makeup and to suck it up – because I usually always do a double cleanse at night, so it’s not really a struggle to take it off in the evening. It’s just inconvenient in the morning.

4. taking better care of my skin and of my dental health. I have high quality skincare and I love doing my skincare but sometimes I’m just too lazy. Let me just say that it doesn’t happen often – but still too much for my liking. Also my dental health – I need to make a dentist appointment asap. I think the last time I went was around 3 years ago!

5. buying better fitting clothes. I don’t like shopping for clothes but it is what it is. Right now I only have cute lounge sets for being at home but when I go out I usually only wear jeans with a basic top and sneakers. I want to look more polished and feminine. I want to stop wearing jeans and focus more on pants, skirts and dresses. Also literally any other shoes than sneakers.

6. go out more. I’m your typical homebody. Movie night? Reading a book? Ordering food? Count me in! I always have fun when I go out but I’m still mostly at home and I want to change that. I want to have a group of like minded friends that want to hang out with me. Maybe even at home. Lol.

I really thought hard about those six points but I think those are the first things that I need to tackle down.

In the end – I was asking myself: what could I do to feel the most comfortable with spontaneous outgoings and meeting new people?

It came down to wanting to look my best. Obviously. I want to make a good first impression and maybe even profit off of pretty privilege.

I’m sure we all know those times when we’re dressed like slobs and suddenly an opportunity to go out arises and we decline because it would take hours to get ready.

That’s the reason why I want to get ready in the morning – so I would only need to touch up if anything came up.

see you soon!

[theprettylittlearchive]

Another hypergamyblr opinion?

A lot of the girls on this app are miserable and they take that out on their anons. Sure the anons are sometimes parasocial little weirdos but still.

I’ve been around tumblr for years and I’m just now returning to the hypergamyblr space and remembering why I prefer to just make moves IRL.

I saw one who was idolized heavily and parasocially admit to being a victim of abuse and another admitting to being almost being married to a madman and saw another who constantly spoke down to anons asking for cup noodles on their Amazon wish list.

Everyone has their journey but none of these women are really above you or any of their anons.

But also some of these anons are absolute freaks and they definitely make it easy for a woman who’s already upset to lash out at them, because why are you asking if someone’s friend’s husband likes black women or telling someone congratulations on being creampied after they make a post talking about their new baby. Just very maladjusted people all round.

I also believe they spend so much time convincing people that only they can have the things they have to weed out their competition because what they have is not special or hard to get if you know what you’re doing.

There are some gems here but phew.

[swabian-princess]

The last three months were actually the hardest of my whole life and I‘ve spent time in a psych ward before.

I can basically feel how my frontal lobe is almost finished developing because I can see things differently and way more clear than ever before.

Honestly, the war in Gaza also plays a big part.

It‘s the first time in my life that I feel absolutely betrayed by my government and helpless, because I can’t do anything to help those people.

I feel guilty because I actually voted for the people that are currently in the government of my country and I can’t believe that I got blinded so easily.

I am constantly looking for ways to help and to donate.

At the same time, I now refuse to give up myself. Those women would do anything to have the opportunities and chances that I have and I won’t betray them and give up.

It’s never to late to start reinventing yourself.

[richarlotte]

Monday’s Watch (Happy 11/11!).

[herdemimonde]

it's the luxury life for me all 2024.

[bleachblondeambition]

I’m very much a woman who believes in making an effort. That will never change, and I’m lucky to have been raised in an environment where I was encouraged to push myself and told to have no fear when it came to trying foreign things. I’m not going to claim that I have a background filled with only success; that simply wouldn’t be true, but I do believe that my past failures and the periods of uncertainty I’ve gone through throughout life have worked as learning opportunities and really contributed to my present day success.

I read a post about failing a while back, and it has a line I’ve kept close to me: “If you’ve failed your whole life, you will not miraculously begin to fail upwards.” It takes time to turn your life around, and if you’ve been spiraling downwards, sometimes it’s best to focus on getting yourself out of the spiral before you start your journey back up. You have to make an effort in all that you do, in every facet of your life, and while some things don’t become easier, others do with time, and your confidence will grow as you learn to trust yourself.

You also can’t mess around with the way you talk about yourself or joke about the things you want. You have to take yourself and your desires seriously; that’s the only way you’ll get what you want from life. You can’t joke about what you don’t have yet, it doesn’t do to pretend that you don’t deserve a good life, and it won’t work to act like you’ll never have good relationships. Pour effort into your life and watch yourself do better, take your efforts seriously and invest your time properly, and keep getting up each day and making progress. Life is about moving forward, not wallowing in past suffering.

[chichiscloset]

She’s a lady

[pleasureandprinciple]

[theprettylittlearchive]

which blogs would you genuinely recommend/ think give consistently high quality advice?

I'm afraid don't use tumblr for advice that much.

I don't really follow many blogs and I don't ask any of them for advice.

Hypergamy blogs are not as much help as you think nowadays and the good ones are constantly deactivating, I just found out ala left yesterday so when I say this I mean it. The old girls for the most part had the best advice because the community was small and filled with girls actually doing their thing not just trad-wife wannabes and ninnies inspired by tiktok. Any blog that has anything that is of worth to me immediately gets added to the archive, so for high quality advice you can go ahead and scroll. However you should be going into the world and getting experience as well as reading books on topics you want help with rather than going to anonymous strangers, because you simply can't tell if their information is actually useful and they have the authority to be giving it.